What If A Man Had To Bear A Child Instead Of A Woman?

Undoubtedly, a mother faces many hardships for her child. Only a mother can understand the pain she has to endure during the delivery. How easy it is for a man that he doesn’t have to give birth to a child. AlaHadrat Imam Ahmad Rida Khan (Alayhir Rahmah) has explained in Fatawa Ridawiyyah.

A woman faces hardships for a long time whereas a man only gets pleasure. She keeps the child in her womb for nine months and faces difficulties in walking, getting up, sitting down and she faces death upon every contraction during childbearing. Furthermore, a woman bears the pains of bleeding after giving birth, and is unable to sleep due to the cramps. That’s why Allah has said:

"His mother bore him in the womb with hardship, and delivered him with hardship; and carried him and lactating him is for thirty months." [Kanz-ul-Iman: Surah Al-Ahqaf, Verse 15]

So for every child she gives birth to, she is sentenced to three years of hard labour. If a man had to give birth to even a (small being as a) mouse, he would have vowed to never do it again in his life. [Fatawa Razawiyyah, vol. 27, Page 101]

Note: The blessed Fatwa of AlaHadrat (Alayhir Rahmah) not only highlights the importance of a mother but also of a wife. A husband should be more kind towards his wife during pregnancy. He should help her out in everything. He shouldn’t let her do any hard work. He shouldn’t stress her out by shouting at her or any other means. In fact, he should give her as much rest as possible. Whenever he adores his child, he should also look at his child’s mother with a merciful gaze [and remind himself] of the many difficulties she endured to deliver his beloved child.